Independent writing by Evan
Honest stories and thought-provoking reflections on technology, work, relationships, culture, and everyday life—from a Chinese programmer who writes with curiosity and heart.
When he is little, I’ll buy him any toy he wants, as long as it is neither inappropriate nor dangerous. If I happen to see a colorful, eye-catching toy, I’ll order it right away and surprise him. I don’t want him to gaze…
Stop the background processes running in your mind. Live in the present, and focus only on the one thing in front of you. My mom lives entirely in the moment and often acts without overthinking, so she has incredible…
China has an unofficial 500-kilometer defensive perimeter. It has never been explicitly declared, but the major powers all know about it. We openly entered both the Korean War and the Vietnam War because China was…
Lower-Class Parents “Child, listen to your teachers at school, study hard, and get into a good university. Only then will you be able to find a good job. Only by enduring the greatest hardships can you rise above others…
Since developing healthier lifestyle habits, I have genuinely become healthier. My blood sugar, blood lipids, and uric acid levels have all decreased. My waistline has shrunk, and I have lost weight—25 jin (12.5 kg or…
A guy quit his job to start a business and opened a noodle shop. He thought he was finally his own boss. He would never again have to put up with an idiot manager or endure office politics. He woke up earlier than the…
Before the pregnancy, everything was pretty normal. But after our child was born, sex gradually became less and less frequent. It felt completely different from before. Her passion turned into indifference, and she kept…
I spent two weeks caring for someone in the hospital. From what I saw and heard—and from listening to the nurses chat—I learned about many older patients, as well as young people nearing the end of their lives. Their…
A few years ago, Big Tech’s view of AI went roughly like this: Large models keep improving → users adopt them at scale → enterprises buy them at scale → AI becomes the next internet → whoever has the most computing power…
First, let’s talk about what life is like with social anxiety. The mere thought of going outside, meeting people, and talking to them can be enough to make someone with social anxiety stay far away from the door. When…
Abstain from masturbation. Ideally, quit completely. If you cannot, exercise strict moderation. This becomes increasingly important as you get older. Do pelvic floor contractions (Kegel exercises). Do 20 repetitions per…
Before something is accomplished, don’t tell anyone about it. The world is not inherently kind. Put away your naïveté. If you know that something is meaningless, don’t do it. Learn true self-control. Perseverance and…
Every Friday, the atmosphere in the office feels noticeably better. From the moment everyone arrives in the morning, people seem livelier and more cheerful. Friday means there is finally something to look forward to…
Psychological Strategies for Standing Up for Yourself 1. Learn this psychological strategy, and no one will dare bully you again There is a timeless trait in human nature: “Petty people fear strength, not kindness.” Why…
Once you have achieved a certain level of financial security and built up one million yuan in savings, stop pushing your body beyond its limits. Work only enough to cover your living expenses. In most cities, one million…